Ah, that burning question that clients ask me on a regular basis. Which vendors do we tip? Do we have to leave a tip? How much?

Tipping is not a requirement but most vendors will expect it

When you sign the contract for the venue usually gratuities are included but make sure to check

Wait staff usually get 15% of the bill, which may be included in the contract

If you feel the staff did an exceptional job & you would like to give them a tip, $1.00-$2.00 per guest is appropriate

Limousine drivers are given tips based on service, as the company pays them 15-20% of the bill

Wedding Coordinators/Consultants, florists, cake decorators, & photographers do not receive a tip unless their work is absolutely out of this world

Live bands & DJ’s are tipped when they provide exceptional service. Each band member generally gets $25.00

DJ’s can be tipped 15% of their bill

Parking/ Restroom attendants should be paid $1.00-$2.00 per guest at the beginning of the night

Just remember that “tipping” is always at the discretion of the bride & groom and only for a job well done

You should never feel pressured into it, especially if they are not deserving of one!


We all know that weddings can be very expensive! Many couples will consider doing  DIY projects to save them money. Now, I am a DIY fan, in fact at my own wedding I did just about everything myself. I made my own cake…4 tiers!! Made my bouquet , boutonnieres, & centerpieces, all before I became a certified floral designer. And I coordinated my wedding day, it was easy……or was it?

I am sharing my experiences with you as both a DIY bride & a professional wedding coordinator & florist

Now I am not a professional baker, nor do I ever want to be, but I did enjoy making my own wedding cake! It was a project that my father was involved with ( he took up baking as a hobby) & it was a special moment between the two of us. We made a lemon poppy seed cake & it was delicious! We prepared it a month prior to the wedding, we froze it until the day before the wedding. It was covered in yummy butter cream icing & decorated with fresh flowers. Now truth be told, I forgot to buy flowers for the cake & was forced to go to a local convenience store to buy flowers. Of course their selection was horrible & expensive!

Speaking of flowers, as I mentioned I made my own bouquet & boutonnieres. I woke up very early on the day of my wedding, ran accross the street to Loblaws to purchase flowers for my bouquet. I had the flowers I wanted in mind, of course what I wanted, they did not have. With no time to look elsewhere, I had to make do with what they had. I used beautiful blue hydrangea for my boutonnieres, not knowing (as I was not trained at that time) that hydrangeas was a bad choice for boutonnieres. They didn’t even make it to the ceremony  :(

My centerpieces were flower pots that I planted early in Spring, by the time my wedding day rolled around, they were all fully bloomed & lush….thank goodness! They made for a great centerpiece giveaway  ;)

I didn’t hire a professional photographer, as I didn’t want to spend all that money on pictures. So I hired a “friend” who was a “so-called” photographer…..worst decision ever!!! The pictures were HORRIBLE & I don’t even have any pictures of my wedding day on display. You know that old saying “you get what you pay for”, so true!

I didn’t hire a professional wedding coordinator…why, I can do it myself! Why pay to have someone do what I can do? It’s your Wedding Day….enjoy it, Do Not Work through it! I didn’t relax or enjoy my wedding day at all. In fact, I don’t remember most of it. So sad!

It will be 7 years this June that I was married. I have decided that on our 10th wedding anniversary we will renew our wedding vows & this time I will enjoy every minute of it!

After my wedding, that’s when I realized I wanted to be a part of the wedding industry. I became a certified wedding planner & certified floral designer. Now I can help other couples on their Special day, allowing them to enjoy a stress free day that they worked so hard on & spent a lot of money on

DIY projects is a great way to save money on your wedding. Choosing them wisely is key. Their are many things you can “DIY” but their are certin things you should not attempt yourself & should hire a professional to do


Here is a great blog post from “The Knot” about choosing the right DIY projects to do & which ones NOT to do!


Happy Planning!







Have you heard the news? Did you see that report on 20/20 last week, about the Wedding Industry, “Wedding Confidential”  that you will be scammed by us vendors?!?!

It’s all over Facebook & Twitter at this very moment! It has become THE Blog subject of many  wedding professionals, all who are down right angry & on the defensive.

I saw the 20/20 report & I too was a ‘lil upset at what they were saying. If you haven’t seen the report, I suggest doing a search on Youtube, I’m sure you’ll find it.

But unlike most of the wedding profesional blogs, I’m not going to disagree with 20/20 so fast.

As in EVERY Industry, there are always un-professional businesses out there, looking to take advantage of people! Whether it be providing poor service and/or products, mis-representing themselves, or simply scamming you out of your hard earned $$, unfortunately they do exsist!

There are 2 Industries that come to mind when I think of buinesses that will use your emotions to get you to spend more money, & they are Weddings & Funerals. I’m sorry, but I have to be honest here!

WEDDINGS: Some vendors will tap into your “Dream Wedding” not your budget first. Knowing that the bride-to-be, more than likely has been dreaming of her wedding day since she was a little girl. “Tell me what your dream wedding looks like” instead of “what is your budget for your wedding” & showing them what they can actually afford.

I had a client meeting just the other day, where the bride-to-be told me that the other decor co. they were talking with spent almost 2 hrs with them discussing their wedding decor, showing them pictures, telling them what they should have to complete their vision. The couple was delighted with the decor co.’s suggestions & LOVED what they were shown. She was excited…….then she asked, “what is the cost of all this?”

Gulp! Major disappointment, as she learned, after 2 hrs, that they could NOT afford it! she felt like her dream was squashed & left the meeting feeling very upset & frustrated!

I know there a vendors out there that use this sales tactic to try & upsale their clients. It’s not illeagal, in fact, many businesses try & upsale you everyday. “Would you like fries with that”, “can I interest you in the extended warranty”, “buy 2, get 1 free”, etc, etc, etc.

When bussinesses hear the word “Wedding” they know that you will be spending a lot of money. They will try & sell you the dream. Take a wedding magazine for example, many of the weddings you see in those magazines are not real, they are stagged photo shoots. What they advertise is way out of most of our budgets! It’s a fantasy, unless you are a celebrity and/or rich & budget is unlimited

So, how do you avoid this from happening to you? Simple, as you meet with each vendor, tell them up-front, what your budget is. Don’t let them show you anything that is not in your price range, & if they do, move on! A good vendor will work within your budget & make suggestions to help you with your vision

Get referrences! If someone you know has worked with them, & have good things to say about them & you trust their judgement, take it! Many vendors have reviews, read them! Inquire with other vendors about vendors. Your photographer can recommend a great florist, or decor co. They do work with many vendors, so they know who the good ones are.

Stop the competition! Trying to out-do your cousin Stephanie’s wedding, will only lead you to the poor house. This is where a vendor can upsale you! Make your wedding special & a refelection of yourselves. If you enjoy the simplier things in life, your wedding should reflect that. Unless of course you are competing to win a luxury honeymoon!

Hire a Certified Wedding Planner/ Coordinator! He/She will only refer you to vendors who are professional, trusted, & most of all, in your budget!! They will keep you both focussed & in-line. Keeping you from getting caught up in all the hoopla & extra costs.



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